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发表于 2004-5-5 02:08
对待心理上各种困难的情感，一般心理学上有两种常用的方法：一：转移注意力，通过各种外界的活动来引导自己的注意力，但是困难情感的复发的情况也快；二：坦然的面对各种困难，异常的情感，既来之，则安之，所有的这些痛苦，悲伤都是生活的部分，是我的朋友，而不是敌人．在一开始面对的时候可能非常困难，但坚持下来则会缓解直至消失．最后还要适当的选择方法，敌人太强时，最好第一种，然后在第二种方法．下面是我写的一篇文章的部分．
Question:When you are feeling a difficult emotion, like sadness, loneliness, sorrow, or disappointment, how do you handle this? What do you do?
Two methods
- Distract the attention. Play game, listen music, take tour, or whatever. I have this kind of experience. The continuing difficult emotion maybe is related to small neurological circle in the people mind. Maybe we need something to break this circle.
- Contact with the difficult emotion directly. Maybe when I face the sadness, please regard it as my friend. That is life is filled with happiness, sadness, hatred and love. Why do I detest these? Why I conflict these? The frustration! Every people have the frustration! I do not worry about it. Buddha has an old saying: After the uncomfortable beginning, the comfortable feeling will be coming! I do not how to exactly translate it. It means a lot monk they must face the inner heart horriable, sad, abnormally happy feeling. Directly. When they first face thee. The uncomfortable feeling will be increased, and then keep quiet, then when you make these uncomfortable feeling to be a friends, then the uncomfortable will disappeared.
- Also we must know which method we should adopt. I think if we donot have the ability to resolve the problem, the reason of uncomfortable feeling. We had better to get away.for example it is not a real example: when my nephew was 6 years old that body height. Another big boy often bother him. Even by his fist. So when my nephew sees this big boy. He feels uncomfortable. Cause he know some kind of danger. Maybe he will threw his fist. I think at this condition, he had better run away. Like you know Forest Gump. A lot bad boy on the truck and chase Forest is only one boy but the enemy is 5 or 6 boy. He has no ability to resolve this problem. He adopts the right decision hears what Jenny said: Run away. But maybe 5 years later, my nephew becomes a bog guy with very strong body, but the big boy becomes a small guy. When my nephew sees this guy, he could not worry anything. When they quarrel my nephew can threw the fist. So the reason is resolved he can face the uncomfortable directly.
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